Day 8: April 14, 2015: 21 Days of Prayer & Fasting for Marriage
April 15, 2015
But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea. Matthew 18:6
Today we consider those lost in the public debate about homosexual “marriage” - the children. Unique threats impact the wellbeing of children in homosexual “marriages,” which by their nature, are unnatural arrangements. Because those who choose to engage in same-sex behavior cannot naturally reproduce, they either must win legal custody of children from a former heterosexual spouse or acquire children by adoption, artificial insemination, or other novel methods.
Justice Anthony Kennedy wrote in the majority opinion against the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) in United States v Windsor (2013):
“It humiliates tens of thousands of children now being raised by same-sex couples. The law in question makes it even more difficult for the children to understand the integrity and closeness of their own family and its concord with other families in their community and in their daily lives" (see Key Excerpts).
Kennedy apparently believes the word “marriage” would somehow dignify homosexual “families,” but did not say how or why. He was suggesting that legalizing homosexual “marriage,” like waving a magic wand, would turn these unnatural arrangements into “families” akin to those with a father and mother. The broadening of this ruling to mandate all states would mean more homosexual adoptions and more closing of Catholic and Protestant adoption agencies that cannot for religious conscience place children in same-sex homes. Fewer children will be adopted into stable homes with both a mother and a father. More children will be put at risk in troubled same-sex homes.
Six people raised in homosexual households have submitted amicus briefs, including two women, Heather Barwick and Katy Faust, whose stories I have been privileged to hear in person. Their briefagainstsame-sex “marriage,” now before the Court, can be found HERE. They try to maintain anonymity for their own families and the people in their stories, to protect them from the kind of recrimination, rage and retribution that has become the norm from homosexual activists against anyone who openly opposes same-sex “marriage.” Katy wrote two open letters to Justice Kennedy. Here are excerpts from her first letter. Her second letter answers criticisms from homosexual activists who attempted to neutralize her points.
I write because I am one of many children with gay parents who believe we should protect marriage. I believe you were right when, during the Proposition 8 deliberations, you said “the voice of those children [of same-sex parents] is important.” I’d like to explain why I think redefining marriage would actually serve to strip these children of their most fundamental rights… This debate, at its core, is about one thing… It’s about children.
The definition of marriage should have nothing to do with lessening emotional suffering within the homosexual community… Nor is this issue primarily about the florist, the baker, or the candlestick-maker, though the very real impact on those private citizens is well-publicized. The Supreme Court has no business involving itself in romance or interpersonal relationships…
Government Should Promote the Well-being of Children - Congress was spot on in 1996 when it passed the Defense of Marriage Act, stating: civil society has an interest in maintaining and protecting the institution of heterosexual marriage because it has a deep and abiding interest in encouraging responsible procreation and child-rearing. Simply put, government has an interest in marriage because it has an interest in children.
There is no difference between the value and worth of heterosexual and homosexual persons. We all deserve equal protection and opportunity in academe, housing, employment, and medical care, because we are all humans created in the image of God. However, when it comes to procreation and child-rearing, same-sex couples and opposite-sex couples are wholly unequal and should be treated differently for the sake of the children.
When two adults who cannot procreate want to raise children together, where do those babies come from? Each child is conceived by a mother and a father to whom that child has a natural right. When a child is placed in a same-sex-headed household, she will miss out on at least one critical parental relationship and a vital dual-gender influence. The nature of the adults’ union guarantees this. Whether by adoption, divorce, or third-party reproduction, the adults in this scenario satisfy their heart’s desires, while the child bears the most significant cost: missing out on one or more of her biological parents.
Making policy that intentionally deprives children of their fundamental rights is something that we should not endorse, incentivize, or promote.
The Voices of the Children - When you emphasized how important the voices of children with gay parents are, you probably anticipated a different response. You might have expected that the children of same-sex unions would have nothing but glowing things to say about how their family is “just like everyone else’s.” Perhaps you expected them to tell you that the only scar on their otherwise idyllic life is that their two moms or two dads could not be legally married. If the children of these unions were all happy and well-adjusted, it would make it easier for you to deliver the feel-good ruling that would be so popular.
I identify with the instinct of those children to be protective of their gay parent... I remember how many times I repeated my speech: “I’m so happy that my parents got divorced so that I could know all of you wonderful women... I cringe when I think of it now, because it was a lie… Now that I am a parent, I see clearly the beautiful differences my husband and I bring to our family... I see the wholeness and health that my children receive because they have both of their parents living with and loving them. I see how important the role of their father is and how irreplaceable I am as their mother. We play complementary roles in their lives, and neither of us is disposable…
If it is undisputed social science that children suffer greatly when they are abandoned by their biological parents, when their parents divorce, when one parent dies, or when they are donor-conceived, then how can it be possible that they are miraculously turning out “even better!” when raised in same-sex-headed households? … The more likely explanation is that researchers are feeling the same pressure as the rest of us feel to prove that they love their gay friends.
Children Have the Right to Be Loved by Their Mother and Father… The government’s interest in marriage is about the children that only male-female relationships can produce. Redefining marriage redefines parenthood. It moves us well beyond our “live and let live” philosophy into the land where our society promotes a family structure where children will always suffer loss… Justice Kennedy, I have long admired your consistency when ruling on the well-being of children... It is your sworn duty to uphold that protection for the most vulnerable among us. The bonds with one’s natural parents deserve to be protected. Do not fall prey to the false narrative that adult feelings should trump children’s rights…
But I fear that, in the case before you, we are at the mercy of loud, organized, well-funded adults who have nearly everyone in this country running scared.
Six adult children of gay parents are willing to stand against the bluster of the gay lobby and submit amicus briefs for your consideration in this case. I ask that you please read them. We are just the tip of the iceberg of children currently being raised in gay households. When they come of age, many will wonder why the separation from one parent who desperately mattered to them was celebrated as a “triumph of civil rights,” and they will turn to this generation for an answer (see entire letter, andthe second on ThePublicDiscourse.com)
- God, please intervene to protect the children who are forced to grow up in same-sex households, apart from the true nurture and admonition of the Lord and with a distorted view of God, the Bible and the family. Have mercy upon those who are already in such circumstances (Gen 18:19; Dt 11:16-21; Jn 21:15; Eph 6:4).
- Preserve, protect and save these and yet unborn children who will be and already are being adopted into these unnatural households (Is 59:21; Mt 19:14; Jn 10:8-15).
- Protect all of our children and grandchildren, some who are already being taught in public schools that homosexual behavior is normal and even virtuous, that same-sex “marriage” is equivalent in value to natural marriage (Is 59:2-5; Jeremiah 9:3-6; Rom 1:22-32).
- Please intervene to stop the rush toward laws that give people special rights and benefits because of their unnatural sexual practices and perceived identity in rebellion to the way You created them as male or female. Stop the madness of fines and lawsuits against God fearing people who object because of their biblical beliefs, all of which will accelerate and multiply if the Supreme Court does not uphold natural marriage and all of which will impact children disproportionately! (Isaiah 59:15; Luke 18:1-8; Jude 1: all).
- Cause each member of the Court to take this matter deeply into his or her heart, and to stand up for natural marriage for the sake of the children even if they cannot see all the other reasons that they should (Mt 18:5-6; 2 Sam 23:3).
- Bend, too, the mindset of too many Americans who are willing to consent to all of this. And send another great awakening that will draw millions of men and women, boys and girls to Christ - across America and beyond (2 Chr 7:14; Mt 18:5-6; Rom 1:32; Acts 2:37-39; 1 Cor 6:9-11).
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